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Dear Denise- I’ve been following you for awhile, love your truth bombs. And everything you say is super easy but I’m just not getting results. My New Year’s resolution was to do all your suggestions.  How long do I need to do all this stuff to feel better? –Wanting to Feel Better in Phoenix Dear Phoenix- First…Love you!!  Glad you’re loving the thoughts I share. Second…Resolutions, they are tricky things!  So full of life and excitement on December 31 and January 2 but quickly fading as the holidays fade back into real life. As we stare down another first of the month let’s revisit your resolutions and make them more likely to stick. Change your outcome based resolutions to action based.  For example, “I will lose 50 lbs” becomes “I will walk 1 mile daily, eat 5 servings of veggies daily and strength train 2x weekly.”  Also, this needs to be 3 resolutions! Once you’ve got a new list of...Read More

Dear Denise, With Valentine’s Day coming up I’m in a bit of a panic. My sweetie is planning a very romantic night, no kids, wonderful supper and I’ve seen packages arrive with scraps of lace in them! But I’ve lost that loving feeling no matter how romantic or patient they are , I’m just not feeling it. Any tips to bring back my libido? -Loveless in Louisville   Dear Loveless, What a big catch 22 for us with fluctuation hormones; the opportunity and want to might be there but there’s just no flame. Here are my best tips to increase libido through lifestyle… Increase your testosterone with heavy workouts.  This is not initially a quick fix but once you’ve started regularly lifting heavy for a few months you’ll find yourself coming home from a workout ready to love up your honey. Increase your energy levels by making sure you’re getting at least 100 grams of protein daily.  You’ll see benefits...Read More

Dear Denise, I am exhausted and even though it is midnight I can’t sleep.  I go to bed and my mind is so busy. Suddenly my alarm goes off and it feels like I only got to sleep 2 minutes earlier. I chug soda and coffee all day just to put one foot in front of the other. I read your tips about sleep but I am just to exhausted to even try.  Got anything easier? –Exhausted in El Paso   Dear Exhausted, Oh the night time monkey mind. I remember waking up not feeling rested at all, swilling caffeine and eating candy bars just to get through the days and magically at bedtime I couldn’t sleep. Here is a super basic step 1.  Eat more protein. Don’t worry about another thing. Just. Eat. More. Protein. What I’ve found over the years of working with women is that we really don’t eat enough protein.  In this diet driven society we’ve...Read More

Dear Denise, Please help!  I’ve always eaten moderately and walked.  My weight has been stable for years and in the last 6 months I’ve suddenly gained 20 pounds.  I look 5 months pregnant! I tried running for a while but kept gaining weight. I cut my meals in half and I’m still gaining weight!   Help! -Bulging Belly in ‘Bama   Dear Bulging Belly,  Welcome to “The Change!”  The time of life where nothing happens like it used to!  A time filled with confusion and symptoms no one warned you about and all the previous go-to’s (like running and dieting) no longer work. Menopause. It’s like suddenly landing in another country and nothing works the same; traffic is on the other side of the road, stores close for lunch, no shorts in public and public bathrooms are not free! Instead running makes you fatter, eating less means packing on pounds, drinking coffee spikes anxiety but still causes sleepless nights! What’s a...Read More

Lose 30 pounds in 30 days! 20 inches in a month, gone! Walk 500 miles in 2020! New Year, New You! What . The . Actual. F#$%? Why?  Why do I have to start over?  What if I don’t really need to lose 30 pounds?  20 inches, what does that even mean?  And 500 miles!!  Who even has time for that? For years as the New Year rolls around, the irritation around these headlines grows. What’s wrong with me?  Why must I up my “game” so much just because I hung a new calendar on the wall?  What’s wrong with the old me?  Can I just improve it? And all of the sudden it’s too much.  I can’t give anymore. I already walk my dog everyday, lift really heavy weights, look like a crazy person on the stair mill and keep my butcher in the money with all the protein I eat in a week.  I read, I meditate, I...Read More